So I've decided

Independent of any input from her father, that Eleanor and I are only going to discuss school for 5 minutes in the car on the way home; and not anymore.  I'm sure she's playing me for a fool, but the last 3 nights getting her to bed have been ridiculous. She goes down at 8:30, comes out of her room roughly 45 minutes later when her music turns off and gives us some song and dance about how she has no water or needs to go to the bathroom.  All lies and now its 9:36pm.  WONDERFUL.  So I chase her back into bed, remind her she's "my best baby" and she tells me I'm her "best momma" and she kisses me through pacy becy (don't judge me) and I cover her head with her rivee and start her music and blow her kisses (that she blows back) then she 'moos' after I then remind her to "don't forget to milk the cows".  Then she states "I'm going to see Ms. Nicole at school, right?" AGHGHGHGHGH.  I'm NOT FAST ENOUGH.  She caught me.

"No, Ellee. Ms. Nicole is not at your new school.  You have Ms. Brandi now" (I'm now trying to hold her down with my forearm and hand across her body)
"Oh. But why can't I see Ms. Nicole?" (the writhing has begun)
"Because.  Ms. Nicole teaches babies and you are a big girl now."
"NO I'M NOT" she hisses back at me through her pacy.
"Alright, well whatever.  You have to go to Ms. Brandi. Roll over and close your damn eyes."

Then, this morning when I went in singing the "Good Morning" song to her, she snapped at me "WHY ARE YOU SINGING? I'M GOING BY MS. NICOLE?" I said no and walked right back out. Her EYES weren't even open... so this whole school and education is bullshit.  She falls asleep concentrating on it and wakes up plagued by it.  I'm choosing ignorance; I will not (and I've told her father and sister they cannot either) ask her about her friends, or what she learned, or what she played with at recess.  I'm sure this will backfire and she will be a grade school dropout; but she'll sleep good at night.